Shyness...? Find ways to overcome it !

Shyness is a disorder and not an illness.

Are you a shy person?  It can be considered to be normal to some extent. Most people experience some amount of discomfort while entering a room full of strangers, or if they have to deliver a speech. However, sometimes shyness can take on extreme forms. Some even feel shy with their own peers!!

How to overcome shyness

• Introduce yourself. A big smile will be all you’ll need to get the ball rolling.

  
  

  Don’t feel the need to qualify yourself. A humble, but accurate description when asked is all that is needed.

• Ask more, talk less. Ask the questions that let them talk about their lives. And then listen with interest.
  

   

  Be generous in your opinion. If you reserve judgment and spend time making that person comfortable, you will not only spread some good karma around, but also earn their gratitude.

   

  Remember a detail. If you’ve met someone before, remembering their name and a detail about them will be the greatest gift you can give them.

  
  

• Compliment others. Everyone loves a compliment, they start conversations and they give people confidence.
  

  Think of others. They will be truly grateful and you’ll be distracted from your own nerves!

  
  

• Always look as impressive as you can be. Looking and feeling great may be helpful in boosting your self-confidence.
  

  
  

  
  

  • Involve yourself in organisations or activities that you find interesting.

  
  

  • Select one social skill to practice at a time. By doing this, you can concentrate your energy and become successful.

  
  

  
  

  • Self-fulfilling prophecy: Look in the mirror when you wake up and say loudly what your goals for the day are. Then visualise yourself actually doing it. If you feel you need more time, do it the night before as well, or take as much time as you need until you feel ready. 

   
  

  • Believe in yourself. You can do whatever you put your mind to.